November 13 | Application (‘Learning the Art of One-Downmanship’)

November 7, 2022

David Faust

By David Faust 

A Sunday school teacher told her class that God created Adam from the dust of the earth.  

โ€œYou mean Iโ€™m made out of dirt?โ€ a little boy asked. 

โ€œWell, in a sense, yes,โ€ the teacher replied.  

The boy thought for a moment and said, โ€œMom is not going to be happy about that!โ€ 

The biblical account of creation is both ennobling and humbling. Adam was created in the image of God, but he was made from dust. Like humus (the dark organic matter in soil), our word humble comes from the Latin humilis, which literally means โ€œon the ground.โ€  

We remain grounded when we pray as David did in Psalm 131:1, โ€œMy heart is not proud, Lord, my eyes are not haughty.โ€ But thatโ€™s a difficult prayer because pride is a struggle for most of us. 

The Errors of Arrogance 

Do you ever try to one-up someone and make yourself feel superior? Have you ever engaged in a competitive conversation where, instead of listening well, everyone tried to outdo each other by telling more impressive stories of their own? One-upmanship even appears in the Bible. Remember how Jesusโ€™ apostles quarreled about who was the greatest? 

Arrogant people are big on one-upmanship, for they . . . 

  • Put down others to make themselves look betterย 
  • Rarely apologize when theyโ€™ve done something wrongย 
  • Refuse to accept constructive criticism and become angry and defensive when challengedย 
  • Constantly seek the limelightย 
  • Brag excessively about their accomplishmentsย 

A healthy amount of confidence is necessary to lead others, but an arrogant attitudeย diminishes influence and demoralizes followers. Healthy confidence relies on God; arrogance relies on self.ย ย 

Confidence is the shepherd boy David saying, โ€œIn the past God helped me defeat a lion and a bear, so he will help me face Goliathโ€ (1 Samuel 17:34-37, paraphrased). Arrogance is King Nebuchadnezzar boasting, โ€œIs not this the great Babylon I have built as the royal residence, by my mighty power and for the glory of my majesty?โ€ (Daniel 4:30).  

Leadership specialist John Maxwell says there are two kinds of pride: โ€œโ€˜Good prideโ€™ represents our dignity and self-respect. โ€˜Bad prideโ€™ is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance.โ€  

A veteran football player should be confident about his abilities, but he shouldnโ€™t act like a prima donna and disrespect the coach. Experience increases a ministerโ€™s confidence, but if he preaches without praying and refuses to accept any direction from the elders, he has drifted into the danger zone of arrogance.  

A Weaned Child 

David described his relationship with God by saying, โ€œBut I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am contentโ€ (Psalm 131:2).  

We shouldnโ€™t act like babies, whining and crying to get our way. An unweaned child views his mother as a meal ticket. Sheโ€™s there to meet his needs and give him milk whenever he wants it. A weaned child, though, is content simply to be at his motherโ€™s side. He begins to see his mother as someone to be loved for her own sake. Likewise, we need to move from selfishly grabbing at the Lord to walking with him in love.  

In Godโ€™s kingdom, we move up by moving down. We gain the world by giving it up. We find life by dying. Jesus introduces us to the humble art of โ€œone-downmanshipโ€ where we become concerned with service more than statusโ€”loving others more than promoting ourselves.  

Personal Challenge: Using Psalm 19:12-14 and 139:23-24 as your guide, spend time in prayerful self-examination. Ask the Lord to reveal any hidden faults, secret sins, or arrogant attitudes present in your heart. 

David Faust
Author: David Faust

David Faust serves as the Associate Minister at East 91st Street Christian Church in Indianapolis, Indiana.


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