A Lesson from Stephen About Doing Church in a Time of Chaos
By Caleb Kaltenbach
UFOs . . . Harry and Meghan stepping away from the royal family . . . Carole Baskin . . . murder hornets . . . the Golden Gate Bridge making music . . . Zoom-using 95-year-olds . . . America, the land of homeschooling. . . . If you had asked me a year ago what all of these things would have in common, I neverโin a million yearsโwould have guessed 2020.
Until this year, you probably didnโt say โin-person gatherings,โ โflatten the curve,โ โPPP loan,โ and โnew normalโ . . . but now you do. Rarely did you mention โcoronavirusโ (or โronaโ), โquarantine,โ and โZoombombingโ . . . but now you do. You didnโt attend webinars on mental health, social distancing, and in-person vs. digital services . . . but now you do. In January 2020, you didnโt know Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, or George Floyd . . . but now you do.
The future church arrived suddenly and unannounced. Leaders of churches, ministry organizations, and Christian educational institutions had to become digital experts overnight. As I write this, most churches have reinstituted in-person worship services, but leaders still discuss masks during services, the proper method for handling Communion, sanitization of ministry areas, managing social media outrage, and discouraging โgreeting one another with a holy kissโ (that last one was a joke . . . kinda).
So, how do we continue to respond to the dumpster fire that is 2020? How should church be done? Better yet, what should be our attitude toward how church should be done?
Look Up
Stephenโs death provides a takeaway that may help us manage our attitude during 2020โs chaos. Right before his death, โStephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of Godโ (Acts 7:55). Stephen then asked God not to count his death against the people (7:60). In a pivotal moment when Stephen couldโve been angry and selfish, he chose to be faithful and humble. While in the midst of lethal opposition, Stephenโs actions and words were reminiscent of Jesusโthe perfect example of humility.
Because of Stephenโs example and that of other leaders, the church grew under persecution. New Testament scholar T. B. Williams wrote in 2016, โPatient endurance during times of trial is not simply a means of achieving divine favor; it has become the very definition of how a Christian relates to God.โ I believe God is attracted to humility. Humility during trialsโno matter what kind of trialโfosters healthy churches and Christians.
Similarly, Paul challenged us to imitate Jesusโ humility in Philippians 2:3-4: โDo nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.โ
Value Others First
With Stephenโs example and Paulโs words in mind, how do we โdo churchโ today? What should our attitude be? How should we respond to both new government rules and personal preferences?
A start might be to consistently ask ourselves: โHow can I value them over me?โ After all, Jesus reveres this kind of thinking. And we must keep coming back to the question, โHow can I value them over me,โ even when we are tempted to do otherwise . . . even when our personal feelings are unacknowledged . . . even when we have feelings like . . .
โข Iโm tired of social distancing during worship services.
โข Online reservations for church offend me.
โข It would be easier to sing without a mask.
โข Wearing gloves for Communion is dumb.
โข Sanitizing a room five times a day is getting old.
โข Iโm going to join the social media outrage mafia.
โข I donโt agree with what they said!
Though itโs not wrong to be frustratedโcertainly everyone experiences frustrationโit is wrong to force our opinions on others โin the moment.โ Itโs troublesome when weโre able to manage our frustration but selfishly decide against doing so at the expense of others just so we can โmake a statement.โ There are times and places to make such statements, but during an in-person worship service isnโt the time or place. It takes the focus away from Jesus when people should be worshipping himโespecially during a season like this one.
Martin Lutherโs words in Wittenberg during the bubonic plague might set an example for us in valuing others first. He wrote,
I shall avoid places and persons where my presence is not needed in order not to become contaminated and thus perchance inflict and pollute others and so cause their death as a result of my negligence. If God should wish to take me, he will surely find me and I have done what he has expected of me and so I am not responsible for either my own death or the death of others. If my neighbor needs me however I shall not avoid place or person.
For some, this kind of humility begins by repenting of sin. Humility will include recognizing that others need comfort and need to experience healing. It will involve learning. It will include embracing biblical justice and acknowledging intrinsic human value . . . and speaking up when there is injustice and when humans are devalued.
Asking that question again and againโโHow can I value them over me?โโbrings us back to Jesusโ example and how true Christianity has grown through the years. Historian Everett Ferguson asked in his book, Church History, Volume One,
Could anything be more improbable than that a religion following a man born of an unwed mother among a widely despised people in an out-of-the-way part of the worldโa man then crucified by the ruling authorities on a charge of treasonโshould become the official religion of the Roman world, the formative influence on Western civilization, and a significant influence in other parts of the world?
God has probably leveraged 2020 to sift you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. (I know he has been testing and purifying me.) I pray it leads all of us to humbly love God and people more.
Caleb Kaltenbach is an author and leads The Messy Grace Group. He and his family reside in Southern California.
(Be sure to read this article’s companion piece, a Bible study of persecution of the New Testament Church by John Whittaker: “Unstoppable.”)



“Doing church” is an awkward phrase for me. I assume here the word “church” means a time of assembly for a local group of Jesus followers.
When phrases are used with the word “church,” many can gain an erroneous understanding of at least part of the phrase โ- the meaning of the word — church.