Articles for tag: Minister&#8217;s Family

Protecting Your PK

By Angela Sanders I am a minister”s wife. I have the scars to prove it, but my children don”t. Not because they didn”t see. Not because they didn”t hear. Not because we lied to them. We didn”t. Hunter and Hope came through an enemy attack on their family by church members with their optimism, faith, and desire to serve the body intact. This was possible only because a few who had successfully waded through the murky waters of vocational ministry ahead of us were selfless enough to take us by the hand and teach us to survive and thrive””and maintain

January 23, 2016

Birth Days, Death Days

By Chris Travis I”ll never forget the day my wife, Lindsay, called me at the office and told me she was pregnant. I had dreamed about this moment. She texted a photo of the pregnancy test, and seeing those two little pink lines felt like Christmas morning. It felt like being in love! I”ll never forget that first ultrasound: those tiny hands and that tiny profile and that tiny heart puffing away. It took my breath away. We had a hilarious plan for how we would surprise our parents. We live in New York City (we moved here to help

June 27, 2015

Church Leadership

The Softball Sermon

By Daniel D. Schantz My father had a magical way with men. In his 87 years, my father led a host of men to Christ and guided several into the ministry. I think it was because Dad was more than just a preacher. He was first and foremost a truly fine man. Like Jesus, Dad was both godly and human, and men could identify with that. On Sunday, Dad was “the preacher,” but at Friday night church softball, he was just “Ed.” On Sunday my father dressed like a prince. The navy blue suits preachers wore in the 1950s seemed

April 26, 2015

Church Leadership

Enough Is Enough

By Jay Engelbrecht Jacob never won a “Father of the Year” trophy. When his boys were young, he was scheming, acquiring. Enough was never enough. You know the story, the tragic news, weeping for his beloved Joseph. By the time he was an old, old man, he had learned. Told that Joseph was back from the dead, Jacob said, “It is enough. Joseph my son is still alive. I will go and see him before I die” (Genesis 45:28, World English Bible). Quality time. Fast-forward thousands of years. Bitterness and grief poured out of the preacher”s daughter, who loves her

November 3, 2014

Church & Ministry Church Leadership

Are We Encouraging, or Discouraging Them?

By Larry Monroe How we respond to an applicant for our job can help or hinder his or her future in Christian service. Nowhere is this more important than with how we handle rÃ©sumÃ©s and written job applications. It happens all too often””a rÃ©sumÃ© is sent in response to a posted position at a church or parachurch organization. The candidate eagerly awaits a reply, wondering what may lie in store for him in some exciting new ministry opportunity. The candidate waits, and waits, and waits. Soon he sends a follow-up note, and then he waits some more.Â Too often no

August 29, 2014

How Are Things at Home?

By Eddie Lowen Why are you serving on that board or with that mission? How do you decide when it”s better to say no? Have you ever heard the wife of a construction contractor brag about all the work her husband does around the house? Neither have I. Normally, Mrs. Contractor complains, “My husband does amazing improvements on other people”s houses, but it”s like pulling teeth to get him to work on our home.” Some churches have a similar dynamic. Here”s how it develops: a capable minister does good work and establishes a positive reputation. He is asked by parachurch

July 28, 2014

Christian Standard Updates News & Updates

A Conversation with Jennifer Johnson

Meet Our Contributing Editors: In this final interview of CHRISTIAN STANDARD”s contributing editors, we talk with the writer who interviewed all the others. This worker and watcher of the church talks about small churches, megachurches, and the failings and future possibilities of our movement. Tell us who you are””not a recitation of your rÃ©sumÃ©, but what makes you tick. My parents like to tell the story of coming to pick me up from the toddler”s room at church one Sunday morning and discovering me hiding under a crib, calmly looking out at everybody. That kind of sums it up””I”m an

August 12, 2013

Church & Ministry Church Leadership

What about the Preacher”s Family?

By Dennis Bratton Fifty percent of preachers” marriages will endÂ in divorce. Eighty percent of preachers believe pastoralÂ ministry has negatively affected their families. Thirty-three percent say being in the ministry is an outrightÂ hazard to their family. Local churches can change this picture. Here are some simple ideas any congregation can follow to make sureÂ their preacher”s family is an example for every family. Preachers live in a continuum of unfinished tasks. At the end of nearly every day, the preacher can think of calls he needs to return, a sermon or lesson he needs to write, someone who requires a personal visit,

August 6, 2013

Mark A. Taylor

Ministry and Family””They Go Together!

By Mark A. Taylor One of the questions late in our June BlogTalkRadio* program was, “How can a Christian leader get started with a missional approach to ministry?” All three of those interviewed””Jon Ferguson, Greg Nettle, and Jon Weece””agreed with the same principle: “Start by being a model of missional ministry with your own class and your own family.” Weece, especially, took up the family theme. “We”ve reoriented our whole life around serving other people,” he said. “It”s very normal, for example, for our kids to understand this is what we”re going to do on Tuesday nights; we”re going to

April 8, 2013

Bad Weather at Home

By Charity M. Walker-Byers and John M. Walker The black clouds of church conflict too often create bad weather at home, too. These “clouds” can cause problems that become all-consuming and overwhelming, influencing every aspect of life. When the church leader loses his or her ability to separate church life from home life, the “black cloud” can consume his or her emotions, relationships, attitude, perspective, and all other aspects of human experience. When that happens, the home becomes a battleground and a source of unhappiness instead of a safe haven, a storm center instead of a safe harbor offering rejuvenation

April 7, 2013

When Conflict Comes Home

By Tom Lawson So, how do you keep church conflict from impacting your home life? The short answer is you can”t. If you”re in church leadership, serious church conflict will, in various ways, impact your family life. Church leaders, however, are not alone in this. Nearly all employed adults in America experience tensions and conflicts in their workplace that, at times, spill over to impact their home life. Church conflicts have characteristics of both workplace conflicts and family feuds. They can be conflicts over power, programs, strategic direction, allocation of resources, and dysfunctional patterns of corporate communication. And some church

February 14, 2012

Pam Parmenter

Christian Living

Our Journey with Grace

Pam Parmenter reflects on confession, hurt, forgiveness, and broken relationships, sharing how a painful season revealed the difficulty—and transforming power—of extending grace to one another.

February 1, 2012

Mark A. Taylor

The Homes Where Preachers Live

Preachers' families face unique pressures, but healthy homes can balance family and ministry. Mark A. Taylor reflects on parenting, sacrifice, grace, and helping children embrace Christian service as a shared calling.

January 31, 2012

Daniel Schantz

Church Life

Seven Heavens

Daniel Schantz looks back with humor and affection on growing up in seven parsonages, recalling crowded homes, nonexistent privacy, childhood mischief, unexpected visitors, and memories that made each house feel like Heaven.

January 30, 2012

Shan Caldwell

A Preachers Kids Hopes for His Own PKs

Minister and preacher's kid Shan Caldwell reflects on growing up in a minister's family and shares lessons about church, parenting, conflict, vocation, ministry, community, and prayer.

January 29, 2012

Charity M. Walker-Byers

How to Help a Preacher’s Kid

Growing up as a preacher's kid brings unique blessings and pressures. Charity Walker-Byers explores the struggles ministry kids face and practical ways parents and caring adults can listen, understand, and help.

June 19, 2011

Mark A. Taylor